Break the same argument loop.
The fight is rarely about what it looks like on the surface. Amanda Jablon is a California-licensed LCSW who helps partners slow the conflict down, find what is underneath it, and change the cycle instead of repeating it.
For couples who keep having the same fight and want a different outcome, and partners deciding what comes next.
Schedule your free 15-minute consultation
Share your contact details and Amanda will reach out to schedule a time for you both.
Who this work is for
The same patterns show up in relationships of every kind, whether you have been married twenty years or your relationship does not fit a template.
The same fight, for years
The topic changes, the argument doesn't. The problem is the cycle underneath it, feeling unseen or unsafe, and that cycle is what gets treated.
In the middle of a transition
Moves, career changes, parenthood, loss, a coming out, or a dynamic that is evolving faster than the relationship can absorb.
Deciding whether to stay
Some couples arrive seriously considering separation. The work is getting you both to clarity, whichever direction that turns out to be.
“The argument is rarely about what it looks like on the surface.”
Meet Amanda Jablon, LCSW
Amanda is a therapist based in Southern California with more than ten years in private practice. She holds an MSW from USC and draws from Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method in her work.
Couples work is emotionally focused and Gottman-informed: slowing the interaction down until you can both see the cycle, making sure each partner actually feels heard, and getting to the need underneath the conflict. The goal is not eliminating disagreement. It is breaking the loop that turns disagreement into distance.
Sessions run 50 minutes by secure video, available to adults anywhere in California. Half-day and full-day relationship intensives are available for bigger repairs and major decisions.
How the work happens
Disagreement is not the problem. The approach is built from evidence-based models for changing the cycle underneath it.
Internal Family Systems
The part of you that escalates and the part that shuts down both make sense. Parts work helps each partner recognize theirs.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Attachment-based work for the moments that keep repeating: the same fight, the same shutdown, the same distance afterward.
Gottman Method
Practical, research-backed tools for communication, repair, and staying connected through conflict.
What clients say
Five-star reviews from Google.
“Amanda is the best of the best! She is thoughtful, smart and truly an amazing therapist. She will help you understand yourself better and meet your goals. Highly recommend :)”
“Amazing is the best. She's kind and I really feel like she hears me. I always feel safe and seen in her presence. Highly recommend”
“Amanda is an exceptional therapist and someone I would wholeheartedly recommend. She is an incredible listener who always offers thoughtful, sound advice while approaching every situation with compassion and without judgment.”
“Amanda is one of those people who makes you feel immediately at ease. She is incredibly thoughtful, warm, perceptive, and genuinely cares about the people around her.”
What you can bring to it
Sessions meet your relationship wherever it actually is.
The argument loop
The same conflict on repeat, slowed down until the cycle underneath is visible.
Feeling unheard
When every conversation turns into defending positions instead of being understood.
Major transitions
Moves, parenthood, career change, loss, and identities that shift mid-relationship.
Queer & ENM relationships
Every configuration, with no explaining required before the work starts.
Neurodivergent partners
ADHD and autism dynamics between partners, worked with rather than against.
Deciding whether to stay
Clarity work for partners weighing separation, without a thumb on the scale.
The details
Common questions
Do you take insurance?
No. The practice is private pay at $325 per couples session, with superbills provided on request. Depending on your plan, out-of-network benefits may reimburse part of the fee.
Can we join the video session from different locations?
Yes. Partners regularly join from separate places, and it works, as long as everyone is in California.
What if one of us is skeptical about couples therapy?
Common, and workable. The free 15-minute consultation includes both partners, video or phone, so the skeptical one can ask their questions directly before anyone commits to anything.
How often are sessions?
Weekly, especially at the start. For bigger repairs and major decisions, half-day and full-day relationship intensives are available.
What happens on the free 15-minute consultation?
Both partners join by video, or by phone if you prefer. You share what is bringing you in, Amanda explains how she works, and you decide together whether it makes sense to schedule a first session. No charge and no obligation.
The fight is never the fight.
Request your free 15-minute consultation, both of you, by video or phone, and Amanda will reach out to schedule a time that works.
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